The key to success in asking a girl out by text is to have good timing. Timing is critical in any relationship, and this is no exception.
Be sure to avoid talking about yesterday’s events, and try to read her mood. Instead, try to ask her questions about her hobbies, interests, and food habits. Be sure to keep your tone light and upbeat.
Avoid generalizations
Don’t use generalizations when asking a girl out. You can alienate your target audience if you use too many generic words in your text. Instead, use specific time and date details to make your intentions clear. You should also make it clear that this is just a date and not a casual interaction. If the girl doesn’t want to go out with you, move on to the next girl on your list. If she refuses to go out with you, don’t complain to her friends or try to contact her ex.
Hasty generalizations are often made from small pieces of evidence. They often come from anecdotes or other pieces of evidence that are dubious in nature. When you use these words in your text messages, it will sound like you are presenting her with an all-encompassing view of your relationship.
Avoid being vague
When asking a girl out by text, you must be specific and avoid being too vague. You should try to think of a unique activity or place that she may enjoy and then propose that activity in your text. This way, she will know exactly what you’re proposing if she replies in the affirmative. Aside from being specific, you also need to keep the text short and sweet. A vague text will sound less interesting and may even be misunderstood.
If you want to get the girl you’ve been eyeing for a while, keep your intentions simple. Avoid being vague by telling her you’re just looking to be friends, or stating you’re a good friend looking for a romantic date. Women aren’t interested in vague intentions, and if you sound like you’re trying to impress them, they will assume the worst. But if she says no, don’t be disheartened or take it personally.
Avoid bombarding her with texts
The first rule of texting a girl is to be light and playful. If you’re asking a girl out for the first time by text, assume that you’ve already become friendly and can start off a conversation with a light-hearted message. Also, don’t bombard her with texts every day. If she doesn’t respond immediately, she may see you as a stage five clinger (a term coined in the movie Wedding Crashers).
Don’t text too often or too personal. Girls love reading interesting texts, so it’s important to refrain from bombarding her with text messages that make her feel like you’re interrogating her. Instead, stick to telling her something funny and interesting.
Try to avoid texting during the night. It comes off as desperate and creepy. Girls are busy and don’t necessarily answer their texts at all hours of the day. Also, avoid texting when she’s sleeping or if she’s not in the mood to answer. If she doesn’t respond to your texts, try asking her how she is doing.
Handling logistics
If you’re trying to ask a girl out by text, it’s important to be realistic about the logistics of arranging a date. The logistics can range from where and when to meet, to how to express positive body language, and even how to handle logistics of transportation.
First of all, it’s important to understand that most interpersonal communication is not done with words, but with tone and body language. Textual communication does not convey any of these elements. So make sure to plan your dates well and create a situation where she can say yes or no with ease.