There is a lot of dating advice out there that is pretty terrible, and a lot of the bad advice tends to be much too general in nature to be of any value. The saying that opposites attract is very common, but also statistically incorrect. At least, to a degree, it is statistically incorrect.
While trying something new and going on dates with people that you would not usually date can be good advice, there is a definite amount of understanding that is necessary for this to work out. If you are a night owl, and the person you are looking to date wakes up at 5 o’clock in the morning, it might be something to consider. While schedules are not something that would likely affect the relationship, for two people that work full-time it may limit the amount of time that can be spent together drastically.
Belief systems are another thing that many people feel is easy to overcome, but it takes work and excellent communication to do so. Even with things such as personality attributes, there are underlying considerations that need to be talked about and communicated well for relationships to be successful. If one person enjoys going out every night, and the other person is quiet and likes to stay in, this can affect people’s social lives and they may need to work hard to find balance.
It can be even harder to find balance when it comes to people that want to incorporate different parenting strategies. Opposites, in the case of money management and money risk, can also be a catalyst for more arguments further into the relationship. Most often, it is people’s differences that break them up, not their similarities.
All in all, science has shown us that relationships that have more similar partners also have fewer arguments and conflicts. This doesn’t mean that you should not give people that are different a chance, but it is among the reasons that dating someone that has similar interests and a similar mindset about the world is more natural for many people.
Phone dating hotlines are an excellent first step to finding people that are similar, and if taking a chance on people that are different, being able to have the appropriate conversations earlier in the dating process is key.