Sexting can give you a false sense of sexual confidence. We all know that, behind our smartphone’s screen, it’s easier to say things that we would never do in real life: bragging, posting a sexy photo of ourselves on Instagram or lying shamelessly about our job on a dating app.
But, at the end of the day, sex is about intimacy and vulnerability. When you hide behind your device’s screen, you may end up doing what you think your partner wants or expects from you, without a real connection.
Is phone sex the same? Well, when having dirty conversations over your mobile you’re forced to use your voice, that adds an element of sensuality to the cold instant messaging.
Let’s put it this way: when you’re sending him saucy texts and sexy naked pics of yourself, you’re titillating his senses, but the only thing you get in return is a cold written praise for your beautiful body, maybe full of emojis.
When he’s forced to actually open up to you by chatting about sex, instead, you’ll be able to create better intimacy.
He’ll have necessarily to listen to you while you explain what are your sexual desires and what you don’t like. If you’ve ever had the feeling that he was sexting with you exclusively for his own pleasure instead of caring about yours, maybe phone sex is right for you and your partner. Also, remember that you have the option to interrupt the call at any given time if things become awkward, while it may be difficult to ignore hundreds of notifications on your mobile device if he insists on wanting something you don’t feel like doing.
Last but not least, phone sex can be totally hands-free if you are in a private place where you can put on speakerphone. This way, you can instantly turn your conversation into a steamy masturbation chat! Long distance couples use this trick all the time to share sexual pleasure despite the miles between them, but you can take advantage of it even if your partner is simply apart when the mood strikes.