Tag: Phone Dating

If you’re shy that doesn’t mean you should not have the benefits of meeting new people and going on dates. Being shy may make it difficult to meet other people in clubs or bars but that’s not an ideal way to meet people anyway.

You can easily get to know people in a safe way and take your time through phone dating. There are hundreds of people on the chat lines you can talk with about any subjects that interest you. The chat lines are open 24 hours a day and every day of the week making it easy to learn more about others and meet new people whenever it best works with your schedule.

Even though talking about yourself may not come easy for you, there are ways to make it easier. You can start by using active listening skills to hear other people out. Many of the people on the chat lines are really looking for someone to hear them out so you will really be doing them a service.

You will likely feel less shy when you actually like someone. The right person may be found on the chat lines and you may feel like you’re able to open up with that person.

You may just need time. Time may make you feel like you know other people enough to open up. You can always communicate your needs to the other people who are on the telephone with you. Everything can be taken in stride if you so choose.

Getting started is easy. Dial the chat line number and you will be instantly connected to someone new. Usually, within a matter of moments, you will come to a determination on whether or not you want to get to know your new phone pal even more or not. Should you not feel the vibe, you can always end the call and redial the chat line number when you’re ready to speak with someone new.

I got divorced in my early twenties. While my ex had moved on, actually living with another woman before just the separation and custody arrangement was finalized, I just wasn’t ready to start dating again.

About a year later, I started to feel that empty space in my life, and I wanted romance and passion! But I had been married since I was barely legal, and I had no idea how to start dating as an adult.

I was desperate for affection, and blindingly horny after that long year of celibacy. So, I started sleeping around with guys I knew. The cute guy who made my lunch time burgers just right! That hottie barista at the coffee shop down the street. The cute and nerdy guy who sat next to me in my continuing education class. My brother’s best friend. But none of them lead to that deeper satisfaction that I was looking for. I told everyone who questioned me that I was a sexually liberated woman, or that I was in training to be a cougar. Truth be told, deep down inside, I really wanted a relationship!

But how was I supposed to get to know someone without getting to know them sexually, first? I still had no idea how to just date! I even tried opening an online dating profile, but I kept judging guys by how they looked, and if I thought they’d be a satisfying piece of ass. It’s almost impossible to just get to know someone – without the sexual distractions, or the overly expensive membership fees – online. I was telling my best friend about my frustrations, and he told me about phone dating.

He used it to connect with lots of local girls. He’d get to know them, flirt all day and night with someone new, and he was so much happier after the real life dates he experienced with the girls he met on the phone. His confidence was through the roof, and he just had that glow of someone who really felt valued for more than his looks or pocketbook! I just had to try it, and sure enough, I started dating much higher quality men – and, I got to enjoy all the flirtation and romance I was looking for – before I met Mr. Right! We’ve been blissfully wed for 5 years now, and it’s all thanks to phone dating!!!

There is a lot of dating advice out there that is pretty terrible, and a lot of the bad advice tends to be much too general in nature to be of any value. The saying that opposites attract is very common, but also statistically incorrect. At least, to a degree, it is statistically incorrect.

While trying something new and going on dates with people that you would not usually date can be good advice, there is a definite amount of understanding that is necessary for this to work out. If you are a night owl, and the person you are looking to date wakes up at 5 o’clock in the morning, it might be something to consider. While schedules are not something that would likely affect the relationship, for two people that work full-time it may limit the amount of time that can be spent together drastically.

Belief systems are another thing that many people feel is easy to overcome, but it takes work and excellent communication to do so. Even with things such as personality attributes, there are underlying considerations that need to be talked about and communicated well for relationships to be successful. If one person enjoys going out every night, and the other person is quiet and likes to stay in, this can affect people’s social lives and they may need to work hard to find balance.

It can be even harder to find balance when it comes to people that want to incorporate different parenting strategies. Opposites, in the case of money management and money risk, can also be a catalyst for more arguments further into the relationship. Most often, it is people’s differences that break them up, not their similarities.

All in all, science has shown us that relationships that have more similar partners also have fewer arguments and conflicts. This doesn’t mean that you should not give people that are different a chance, but it is among the reasons that dating someone that has similar interests and a similar mindset about the world is more natural for many people.

Phone dating hotlines are an excellent first step to finding people that are similar, and if taking a chance on people that are different, being able to have the appropriate conversations earlier in the dating process is key.

There is some advice that pretty much everyone who has ever dated has heard. It goes something along the lines of “If you play hard to get, and make the other person work for it, they will want it even more.”

It almost turns dating into a game, and with phone dating, it tends to backfire more often than not. Regardless of what type of date it is, however, playing hard to get has some pretty significant downsides. There are a few things that can happen that, sadly, are not the result that people intend. Further, these occur at a much higher rate than people believe that they do.

First off, by playing hard to get the person you are seeking could decide that you are either not interested, or that they don’t want to put all of this extra work into wooing you so early in the dating process. Many people prefer drama free, game free, relationships that are relaxed and flow well. People that play hard to get can often disrupt this natural flow.

Secondly, playing hard to get can attract the type of people that you might not want to date. Sending messages that you don’t care if they are around often or not can affect things when you do decide that you want them to be around more often. You may find that you have met a commitment-phobic person. That you not needing them to be around much was one of the reasons that they liked dating you in the first place.

Long story short, if you are interested in someone you should let them know. More often than not, people that meet in real life cross paths with people they are interested in and never say a word. Since phone dating is all about words, it is a lot less likely that people will play hard to get. If they are playing hard to get, it is a lot more noticeable, and many people choose to move on to other potential dates reasonably quickly.

Much like dating in person, some matches work out better than others. Depending on how long you date over the phone before meeting in person, you may come across a situation where you are wondering if its time to let a relationship go. We have a few thoughts that can help you decide:

Is All Of The Effort Coming From You

Also, are you ok with it if it is? Each person is different, but most relationships involve a back and forth. If you feel you are putting all of the efforts into a phone dating relationship, make sure you communicate your needs and wants. Be polite and tactful and make sure that you are expressing your feelings and not pointing blame, there are a lot of variables that can affect how much people can communicate. It’s possible you don’t have the whole story.

Reevaluate What Your Needs Are

Some people think of dating in terms of expectations. Other people think about it in terms of time. If you need someone that will give you five percent of their time, and they need someone that provides 15 percent of their time, you may need to find a compromise.

Meet Up In Person

If a phone dating experience has lasted a very long time, some people lose interest because they feel that they may never actually meet the person they are chatting with on a phone dating hotline. If communication has decreased or it seems like there is a connection that is lacking, it may be time to suggest a meet-up. Getting together can inject new energy into the relationship and open up a new world that may add needed depth to your relationship.

Final Notes

Sometimes it is good to trust your gut when it comes to breaking up, but many professionals recommend increasing communication about feelings and needs before going this route. Call up your phone dating partner and let them know what is up. Make sure to add positives in with the negatives. Making phone relationships last is a beautiful thing, and just like dating in person, they take some work and effort.

In a world built around instant messages, online food ordering and call screenings with caller ID, many people feel nervous about the idea of talking to others, on the phone or in person.

So what can be done to help alleviate the knots in peoples stomachs? Here are a few tips to help you prepare to meet new people through phone dating chat:

1: Establish A Routine

Surprise/spontaneous calls can sometimes be romantic, but for someone with anxiety, having a call out of the blue can be nerve-racking. Establish a set time during the week to get in touch; planning can help you (or them) prepare. Having this baseline not only ensures the anxious can psych themselves up for the call, but makes sure you can communicate/touch base regularly, something long-distance relationships might lack otherwise.

2: Prepare What You Would Like To Say

Jot down notes about things you’d like to remember to discuss, like ideas you’ve had or stories from your day. Keep them simple; you don’t need a script, just enough to jog your memory. Let the conversation flow. If you have questions about dealbreakers, religion, or politics, you can get that out of the way quickly and find great matches efficiently.