The nightclub scene has a bad reputation (many men there are just looking for a one-night stand) but it can also be a great place to meet eligible men. Just make sure you have a good communication style to deal with the potential lulls in conversation.
Bookstores are awesome – you have an instant connection with someone who loves books! Asking for a recommendation on a new book is a great way to start the conversation.
Bookstores
Bookstores are not just places to find a great read, but also meet like-minded people. With thousands of built-in conversation topics lining the aisles, and cozy coffee shops to relax in, there are many opportunities to spark a conversation with someone new.
A good place to start is by attending a book reading or signing. Book signings and readings are free events and are a fun way to meet new people. You can strike up a conversation by talking about the book or asking the author questions.
For example, if you are interested in politics, you can ask the author what they think of the current political climate. You can also visit a unique bookstore such as Perrotin, which is a bookstore and art gallery in the Lower East Side.
Networking Events
In a focused networking event you’ll meet men who are looking to grow their business or career. This makes them a good choice for a more serious relationship because they’re already focused on their professional life and may be more mature than scrubs you would meet at a bar.
Whether you’re at the gym, at a yoga class or volunteering for a cause, you can also meet men by joining social clubs or attending special events at your local museum or library. These events will give you the opportunity to meet people from a wide range of backgrounds who are all sharing similar interests and passions.
Joining a co-ed sports league is another great way to meet men. Most of these leagues will have a large percentage of male participants which means you’ll have plenty of chances to chat and flirt with guys while playing. And after the game, you’ll be able to get to know your potential date even better with drinks or dinner.
Sports Bars
As a sports town, NYC offers plenty of places to cheer on your team or scream at the TV when yours loses. Kelly’s is a classic bar where locals gather to watch their favorite hockey teams, including the Buffalo Sabers. Other bars such as Blue Haven offer flat screen wall TVs and multiple rooms where you can gather to watch games, regardless of the sport.
You can meet men in NYC’s sports bars by being approachable and using a direct communication style. Men tend to prefer women who show confidence and a healthy sense of humor, which can help them feel at ease around you.
Whether you’re looking for a casual fling or a lifelong partner, deciding what kind of connection you want can help make it easier to meet the right men. Take advantage of the unique opportunities in your community to find a man who’s a good match for you. Be bold and make the first move—men appreciate women who aren’t afraid to be assertive.
Toastmasters
If you’re looking to meet men in a social, fun, and non-toxic environment, Toastmasters is a great place to look. Toastmasters is a volunteer-run organization that provides public speaking and leadership skills training in a supportive, no-pressure setting.
Meetings take place weekly or biweekly and last about an hour. During the meeting, members practice preparing and delivering speeches. They also have opportunities to hone their impromptu skills in a meeting component called Table Topics, where they speak for 1-2 minutes on a subject they haven’t prepared in advance.
Toastmasters International has more than 16,000 clubs worldwide and over 300,000 members. Unlike other public speaking training programs that typically last a few days, Toastmasters offers regular meetings so members can gradually improve their skills over time. Toastmasters also hosts annual conferences, in which members compete for best speaker and other awards. Some companies even offer in-house Toastmasters clubs to help employees develop communication and leadership skills.